I’ve had a certain topic weighing on my heart and mind lately, and that’s the fact that being different is okay and extremely beautiful.
I am a liberal, agnostic theist who lives in the Bible Belt. I identify as a demisexual (I only develop romantic feelings/sexual attraction to people who I have a close bond with). I’m a creative person who dropped out of college and pretty much shattered my family’s hopes and dreams for me. Also, I abhor sports, and I live in an area where football is second to God. And you know what? I’ve never been happier with myself.
For the longest time, I tried to conform to what other people wanted me to be. I held back my viewpoints and went along with what everyone else believed. I was so unhappy and miserable and actually despised myself. I felt like I was broken, a screw up, faulty. I put myself through the misery because I felt like no one would love me if I was my true self. I didn’t even know I was creative until last year, and that is my biggest regret.
For a very long time, I held a massive grudge against everyone who expected me to be/act a certain way. I felt like they held me back from being happy. I spent SO LONG trying to be what everyone else wanted me to be that I didn’t know who I was. There were lots of tears, raised voices, and scars left behind (both literal and figurative). I didn’t realize that the only persons opinion who mattered was MINE. I am responsible for my own happiness and it took me way too long to come to that realization.
Whether you have different religious/political beliefs, are a different sexuality, or just have aspirations or a personality that don’t mesh with what everyone else wants for you, it doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means you are unique and beautiful. Think of all the amazing people who have made an impact on this world. If they hadn’t been unapologetically themselves, think about how much the world would suck without their contributions.
You are going to do amazing things, and the world is a brighter place with you in it. Even if your loved ones don’t accept you for who you are, there are other people out there who will absolutely adore you. I love you, and I think you’re perfect just the way you are.